Readings & Prayers...
There are so many wonderful choices. Some current favorites:
I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself,
But for what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out;
I love you for putting your head into my heaped up heart
And passing over all the foolish, weak things, that you can’t help dimly seeing there.
That no one else had looked quite far enough to find.
I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good,
and more than any fate could have done to make me happy.
And you have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign.
You have done it by being yourself
Perhaps that is what being a friend means after all.
The Prayer of St. Francis is loved by many:
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let us sow love.
Where there is injury, pardon
Where there is discord, union
Where there is doubt, faith
Where there is despair, hope
Where there is darkness, light
Where there is sadness, joy
O Divine Master, grant that we may not so much seek
To be consoled, as to console
To be understood, as to understand
To be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen.
Here is a lovely spiritual prayer.
Spirit of Love and Life,
We thank you for bringing these two souls together. Having found each other, we ask you to bless their destinies that shall now be woven into one design, of both their perils and joys.
We ask that those who are nearest to the Bride and Groom be constantly enriched by the beauty and bounty of their love for one another; may their work be a joy that serves the world; and may their days be good and long upon the earth. Amen.
(Adapted from Neale Donald Walsch and Nancy Fleming-Walsch)
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(Bride), will you take (Groom) to be your husband; to love, honor, and cherish him, now and forevermore?
And (Groom), will you take (Bride) to be your wife; to love, honor, an cherish her now and forevermore?
(Bride and Groom), please repeat after me:
I want you to know that I love you,
And I will love you for the rest of my days.
I vow to trust you and respect you; tell the truth and embrace you.
Every day. All the time. And always.
This is my promise,
To share a lifetime of eternal, immeasurable love.
I like these vows also:
I, ….. ask you, ….. to be my partner, my lover, my friend and my husband (wife)
I announce and declare my intention
To give you my deepest friendship and love
Not only when your moments are high
But when they are low
Not only when you remember clearly Who You Are
But when you forget
Not only when you are acting with love
But when you are not
I further announce before God and those here present
That I will always see the Light of Divinity within you
And seek always to share the Light of Divinity within me
Even and especially in whatever moment of darkness may come.
It is my intention to be with you forever
In a holy partnership of the soul
That we may do together God’s work
Sharing all that is good within us
With all those whose lives we touch.
Two examples of favorites used to complete the ceremony:
May the blessing of light be with you always,
Light without and light within,
May the sun shine upon you and warm your heart
Until it glows like a great fire
So that others may feel the warmth of your love for one another.
May the glory that rests upon all who love bless you and keep you,
filling you with happiness and a gracious spirit. Despite all changes of fortune and time, may that which is noble and lovely and true, remain abundantly in your hearts, giving you strength for all that lies ahead.